I can’t tell you where exactly it came from, I can’t tell you how it exactly started but I Boxie Nigma am in fact allergic to excuses. I want to first make something clear, avoiding excuses is not an easy way to live by any means. I mean let’s start with the main reason why people make excuses in the first place… because they are trying to look for a reason to get out of doing something. Many times excuses are said in order to either make the person giving them feel better or justified why something either has or has not occurred or to make the person that said individual is doing something with feel better or understand why that individual can’t do something.
Let’s throw an example out there. Little Eddie has a bday party and he invites big bad Joey to come to this party. BBJ tells LE he is so gonna be there hanging and banging at said party and has every intention of doing so but then the party approaches and BBJ no longer wants to go. Ya see something else has come up for BBJ or he just doesn’t want to go to the party anymore. Rather then BBJ calling LE and saying ”hey sorry but hot supermodel Tanya is having a party so deuces loser I’m not coming to your party” or “sorry LE but I don’t wanna come to your party” or just blowing it off altogether no call no show…BBJ calls up and says something like this (And you know some smarmball has used these excuses at one time or another) “Hey bud sorry I can’t be there tonight because the weather is so crappy, I have work in the morning and I have no ride so I wouldn’t want to travel so far and not be able to drink.” Well any of those excuse are a whole shit load of lame and I just have always hated them. Whenever I am hit with any of those three I usually do the whack off symbol or flip off the phone and forget that. Therefore, I made it my goal to simply avoid excuses at all costs, if there was a way then I would attend every event usually at the expense of my own health. There was no “too far” there was no “I have work in the morning” nope I became the exception to the rule and in the end I had a lot of pride, well, most of the time.
Now when I say I avoided excuses many of you probably think ok big deal so do I and you might but I want to make it clear to the extent that I, at times, lived and died by this mantra so here it goes…
-I started working when I was 17 and from that point on I have either worked a job and went to school or worked multiple jobs. Some of my friends did not start working when I did but you better believe that whether it was a 13 hr day followed by another 13 hr day or whatever the circumstance, if I was invited to go out, I didn’t want to let anyone down, so out I went!
-In college when I was given a paper or I had a test, many times I would sit down to do the paper and someone would call me with a crisis…the crisis would usually take hours to deal with so I would spend numerous hours on the phone before finally getting down to do my paper and then (After pulling countless all nighters) I would go to class.
-When multiple events were taking place in one evening, I would not choose the best one, I would find a way to show face at every single event so that nobody could say that I didn’t show up…Most of my days were in fact spent running and gunning!
I feel like this is always the way that I was and how I expected everyone else to be but when I started dating Natalie last year, my avoid excuses blew up and I became a non stop machine who legitimately made no excuse. If there was a will better believe there was a way. Ya see Natlie lived 75 miles from me in Southern New Jersey ( I live in New york) so this was by all intents and purposes a long distance relationship. Thus, there’s basically an unspoken bond that you will only see each other maybe once a week, if that much. This is of course the case if you aren’t in a long distance relationship with Boxie Nigma. I made sure that Nat and I saw each other 3-4 times a week. I’ll get into the specifics as I continue to post but legit I would work 60 hrs a week and still find time to see Nat for 4 days of the week. I feel a lot of the time the reason for this was people telling me there was no way to make it work. People would say dude you look exhausted go home and go to bed…to bed? I couldn’t go to bed, no way! Ya see, to me this would be looking weak or admitting all of this was too much and that just isn’t in my DNA. If things are difficult I immediately go into lets figure out how we can make this happen and by any means I usually do.
So there ya have it a little back ground into what avoiding excuses is all about. It isn’t always pretty but it’s the way that I choose to live. I want to live everyday to the fullest and excuses ruin this plan. I have pissed off a lot of people with this mantra who don’t want to even tell me why they can’t attend or make an event but I’m fine with this. What I’m not fine with, however, is that it seems of late this mantra has caught up to me a bit. I told you all in the beginning of this post that avoiding excuses wasn’t easy and throughout these future posts you will see how this mantra has at times come back to bite me in the ass. Though for better or worse I still try to do my best to avoid excuses every chance I get!
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