I just recently got invited to a party and I’m honestly not very excited…if its a real good friend of mine’s party I usually do what I can to be there or to make it up to them if I can’t but if not then I often show up late, show up with a buddy of mine or I just don’t go…ya see this is a bit of an unknown fact, few know abt me, I’m actually a pretty shy guy at my core.
I know someone, with over 20,000 tweets, 100 YouTube vids and his own Freakin blog is prob anything but shy but believe it or not I am…I have no problem meeting ppl & get along with everyone I meet for most part. That being said, I like the pressure to be lessened a little so I like to bring along a buddy, its just easier. Therefore, if all else fails I have my pal to hang with me (esp bc most of my friends want to leave said events that I ask them to come along to). Thus, if the party is lame I can talk to my pal, or we can even leave & figure out something else to do.
With that being said its time for a little backstory…
In 2010, I was in a bit of a bad place love life wise (some may argue I’ve never left said place but this is my blog so ill go with it). I spent most of the year dating this girl Marla on and off, even though I knew it never really was going anywhere. Ya see, I felt like I ruined things for myself with Marla so I basically worked all year trying to get Marla back so that I can prove to myself (and everyone else) that I wasnt going to fail with her (pretty immature, I know but remember this blog is able to happen based on all of the experiences I’ve had so hang in there). Anywho while this was going on, id go out with my friends, id talk to girls, get numbers and get in touch with none of them.
I think my idea was that because things were still open with Marla I didn’t care to meet anyone else so even when I did go out with other ppl I was just doing so to pass the time until I could get back with Marla…Finally in December of 2010 Marla and I had agreed to be official! (If you’re cheering you can stop it really was probably only bc once Marla came back the third time I had told her that if she didnt want to freakin do this she could keep walking and so she decided to give this a “real chance”…like that Otown song was it? Anyway it was whatevs) Anyways, on December 30, a co worker (Darleen) invited me to her new years eve eve party (remember this, its important) and Marla agreed to come with… However, we couldn’t get to Darleens party bc Marlas flight got delayed and even though she said I could go without her, I decided it would be more fun to wait at Laguardia Airport until 4am for Marlas flight (you can roll your eyes I am as well).
Marla and I continued to date until finally we actually had a legit break up over the phone on January 13th 2011. During this call, I told Marla we were totally finished (she wanted to casually date again for a fourth time) and I was gonna go out no strings attached and do me…
This is exactly what I did, I did the exact thing you probably shouldnt do when going through a breakup, drink in excess and party with your friends every night you can! (now you can cheer) If there was an event, I went and I usually dragged Trent or Blahren (my best female friend) with me, a few times even Clarence! I was making sure to have an aboslute blast and not give a damn about anything else. I had vowed that I needed some time to be single, enjoy spending time with my friends and just enjoy life! I had even set up a trip to Boston with Trent and Clarence for a weekend at the end of January (its customary, whenever I have a breakup a trip is usually set up within the next few weeks. It is also customary that whenever I usually vow to spend time having fun and being single it doesn’t last too long, but I don’t want to jump ahead)
The next week I was talking to Darlene at work & she asked if I was still seeing Marla. (Whenever Darlene would ask what my plans for the weekend were Id say Marla and I were doing something and often roll my eyes…I didn’t do this bc I disliked Marla but more bc I was frustrated with our situation…but it led to many ppl wondering why I was still with ole Marls) I had proudly proclaimed to Darlene that I wasn’t and that it was time I did me for a while ( you can prob make a joke there about doing myself but let’s not and say we did shall we?) and just hung out. Darlene said this was great bc if I was looking for things to do & wanted to come to her bday it was at the same place as the last party she had that I blew off.
I agreed and was pumped for another reason to go have a good time with some friends, besides I knew that it woulda been quite shitty to blowoff another one of Darlene’s parties…so I knew I was going, now the question was who would I bring, would it be my buddy Trent? Clarence? Maybe Barns and his fiance Dame? I searched high and low but nobody was able to go.
I was in quite a pickle, this just absolutely sucked. I didn’t want to go to this party alone but I also didn’t want to let a co worker down blowing off two of her parties in three weeks! Finally a few other co workers said they were gonna go & one was even gonna bring a friend for me (I typically hate being set up but thats another story for another time)…alright I mayve not been the closest with these co workers but desperate times right? It was time to party!